Being a working mom, I know how it feels to need a “moment” when my work day is over… Your mind and body needs time to release the days strife’s and worries… you just want to let it go! Before cleaning the house, cooking (if it applies), playing with the kids, and most importantly, being the ear to someone else’s dramaful day.
Again, as a woman, this is rough for me being that most of the household duties fall directly on my plate. I have no choice but to make due, but that doesn’t mean that it is easy. Anywho… Let’s remove my situation in particular and focus on the concept as it relates to men. Traditionally, the characteristics of a woman has been to be the nurturer, the assistant, the caretaker, the mother, the chef, the maid, etc. Now don’t get offended ladies, this is true. These traits have historically been known as the women’s responsibility in the house. Men are traditionally known to be the provider (finances, food, etc.), the protector, the leader, and the teacher. We can argue back and forth all day, but this is essentially true.
It is important for men (or women if it applies), to get a “moment” when they get off work. That moment could consist of: taking a walk immediately after work, taking the scenic route home to get some extra “me time” in the car before arriving, or being able to sit in your man cave, unbothered, for a specific amount of time. Whatever your method may be, it will help you in many ways. Your house will always be peaceful, and it will allow you the time to think off your daily struggles instead of taking them out on your spouse and kids.
Ladies, your role in this is to assist your man in getting that “moment.” Contrary to popular belief, this is not the definition of being “submissive.” This is just a woman fulfilling her womanly duties in the home. If you are a stay at home mom, have the house straightened up by the time your man arrives. Even if you can’t dust the shades etc., pick up clothes and loose items, clean the dishes, and make the bed. Keep the kids out of the way for at least 30 – 45 minutes. Give dad a chance to settle down in the house. If he can relax a little, he is less prone to snap at the kids out of sheer frustration. Cook dinner… If you don’t have the time to cook, grab take out, either way anticipate a hungry belly when he gets home and be prepared. Lastly, try to hold off on giving him an earful. Whether he left a drop of urine on the toilet, forgot to put his clothes in the hamper, forgot to leave you money, or if you just want to vent about your parents. Who wants to come home to bickering, complaining, or “mess” for that matter? Save it for a later time. Let him have a moment. If you bring up any of the above at a later time, there will be a much better outcome. The mindful woman knows when to say and do what… You’ll know when the time is right.