The last couple of days, I have found myself pondering relationships… Yea, yea, I know I am always thinking about relationship based issues, but this was on another level. My thought process was a little more elevated than normal. I pondered things that, even myself, had never considered or thought about.
I also thought to myself, “I wonder if other people have ever pondered these same things?” So let’s play a game. The game is called “what if”… You can blurt out your answer, or let them gently cross your mind, it is solely up to you. But give it some thought nonetheless…
WHAT IF…
– we actually realized the benefit of a partner/companion. How awesome would that be?!?! To love and respect someone based off what they bring to the union, rather then judge them by their flaws and shortcomings.
– we understood that our companion should possess strength where we are weak… To form one whole.. one complete person. The most powerful unions understand this, and that is the foundation to build a solid house.
– we loved wholeheartedly… without conditions. Y’all know what I mean, right? When you’re only with a person because they have a good job, or a nice physique, etc. Conditions! Meaning, if they lost those attributes, you would be out the door!
– we stopped letting “outsiders” influence our relationships. Like, you see Sally and Joe and they look cute together. She tells you that he runs her bath water and leaves roses around the tub everyday. Sally also thinks that you are settling because you aren’t getting the same treatment. You look back at your man like, “you don’t do that!” Now you want to leave your relationship and “find” someone who will. What Sally probably didn’t tell you was, he runs her bath water and leaves roses every time he has put his hands on her. Mostly to ease her bruised bones and heal her sobbing heart. Don’t let your family/friends dictate how you should operate in your relationship, or even who you should date. Relationships survive solely on individuals, you are the only person that matters. If that package doesn’t come in a perfectly square box, that is ok. That doesn’t mean that it’s not perfect for you.
– we started dating/marrying the person we NEED instead of the person we WANT. Who cares if she has a rack on her and an hour glass shape! If she is out of there as soon as you fall on hard times, then her boobs are useless. So what he has a great job and tons of money! If he can’t fathom you putting on weight or any of your physical beauty diminishing, then the stable life is worthless. A relationship based off wants will never last. Your “wants” will change with every season, therefore, you will never be able to build a solid foundation.
– we actually listened to men… Their silent cries, and advice. What if we respected them enough to take their opinion into account. YES, women are strong, if not stronger, but the sheer lack of respect for a man’s “voice” in today’s society is scary.
– the power to fix RELATIONSHIPS as a whole, resides right within us. We have had the power all along. The ego is what blinds us and distorts our vision.
What if… we realized our power. *sigh* What an awesome day that would be.